Ever since
the Delhi gang rape I have been thinking of something. Not because this is the
first rape case, or the first gang rape case, but because of the level of
depravity the rapists sunk to after raping the girl.
For those of
you who are not aware of this case, a girl and her friend took a bus. The
driver and his friends beat the girl and her friend with a rod and then went on
to rape the girl turn by turn. Then they beat her more and inserted the metal
rod in her vagina. They stripped the girl and her friend and tossed them out on
the streets. The girl’s injuries were so harsh that her intestines had to be
removed. There was hope that she could have a transplant but she died of her
injuries.
This case has
brought the people of the nation together. People began to voice their concerns
loud in forms of protests. Why don’t we have strict anti-rape laws? Why isn’t
it safe for women to go out in the open? Why must they be blamed for the rape
and not the rapist? What punishment should be given to these men? Some people
demanded capital punishment, while some demanded castration. People took to the
streets in protests asking for all this. Some people blamed the rapists, the
police, the government, there were few who looked inside.
Why look
inside do you ask me? I will tell you why. When this barbaric case came to
light, many people wept for the all the girl had to face, and cursed the
rapists but many also asked “What was the girl doing at that time of the night
with a male friend? Why did she take that bus? When we all know that it is an
unsafe place for women why did she watch the late show? Did she do something to
instigate the rapists in to beating her so badly?”
I fail to see
how it all matters. If she dressed a particular way and the men got so aroused,
they should have kept their arousal to themselves. Instead of teaching women
how to dress teach the men to control themselves. Women get raped irrespective of
the clothes they wear (sari, salwar kameez, jeans, skirts, etc.), of how old or
young they are (teens, toddlers, old), or where they are (home, office, public
transport, streets). The key aspect here being that there are men who rape, and
it is this fact that must be addressed if you wish to get to the root of it all
to eradicate.
A fact I
believe that contributes to this all is how girls and boys are brought up.
Traditionally we are a society which is biased towards the men. This is why we
tell girls not to get raped instead of telling the guys not to rape. Idiots. I
think it is very easy to blame the victims, and get away with that instead of
correcting centuries old incorrect thinkings. It is easy, but
not right. To quote Albus Dumbledore, “We must all face the choice between what is right and what is easy.”
We need to teach the generations that are to come and that have already come
that girls are in no way lower than guys. This means that you cannot just go
and have her if you find her attractive; you cannot rape her if she says no. No
means No. It’s not just a matter of finding someone physically attractive or
pleasing to the eyes. It’s the idea that you want her and you must have her,
her consent not being of any matter to him.
Then you have people who
agree that such people are who cannot control themselves, that they are mad
dogs or bulls of sort. So they tell me that if one sees a mad dog running or a
mad bull you don’t go there and run like mad when it charges towards you. First
of all, these are men we are talking of not animals. But I understand where
this logic comes from, if we equate them with animals since they can’t control
themselves; then they must be treated like animals of such sort. Tie them and
lock them up before they bite, put them down.
Now regarding
what must be done to these rapists, I was personally of the opinion to not give
them capital punishment. Well because if you kill them, it’s the end for them
while the girl continues fighting for her life. Instead send them to prison,
and make them pay for all her expenses (medical and otherwise till she lives). There
is difference between punishment and justice. In discussion with a friend Desi Girl on
this that “Justice is the closure
for the victim and punishment is about extracting penalty cash or kind from the
wrong doer.” However now with the girl being dead I wonder if we should
make an example of these rapists. For now it’s a case of not just rape, but
torture and murder. So yes, the rapists must be punished, but what about
justice? Justice needs to be served to not just her but to all other people who
have been raped.
If you want to do your bit about justice and preventing such
cases please ‘look inside’ as well.
In one of my google searches in, I found this video.
(Contains violence and dramatized gore)
Men have to be taught.. "This is why we tell girls not to get raped instead of telling the guys not to rape"
ReplyDeleteStark. and brilliantly written. Thank you Hrishi.
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